cc397711cd50dbef917c7446e120bf92

24 Things I learned by the time I was 24

 

This last year has been quite an adventure. When you’re 23 you learn a lot, deal with a lot, and continue growing into a full-fledged adult (yikes!). Reality gives you some harsh kicks in the ass, you’ll fall on your face a couple of times, make leaps and bounds in certain areas of  life and take a couple steps back in others.

After going through the somewhat difficult transition from college life to the real world I learned a thing or two. I am also fully aware that there is still much more in store for me to learn. I’ve always been an early bloomer so I’d like to think that my having a “quarter life crisis” at the age of 23 was just average for me. I’m on the fast track to adulthood, you might say.

As I take the day to reflect on this past year I am amazed what amazing blessings and realizations have come my way through pain and struggle. I have also realized how blessed each and every one of us are to go through painful times. I say this because through storms we find ourselves. We grow, become stronger, and we can look forward to the light on the other side when we make it through. Sometimes a storm is a blessing, and that’s kind of how this year has been. A blessed storm.

With that said, cheers to being 24! I’m excited for the new year ahead and all of the wonderful lessons and opportunities it may bring!

Here’s a couple things I learned this year that I thought you might need to hear:

 1. You are not your body

Looking slim and trim is awesome, having abs is awesome-er, but loving yourself regardless of your love handles is what it’s really all about. When you look good you feel good- that’s a given.

However, we forget how amazing we are even if we don’t have super fit bodies. Remember, you’re a radiant person, regardless of your dress size. So, whether you’re having a bad hair day, or you gained a couple pounds on vacation, don’t sweat it. Because you are so much more than what you look like.

2. Success is nothing without someone to share it with

The road to success can be lonely if you let it. So, don’t let it. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, push you to keep going, and who can teach you how to relax. These people will make success that much sweeter.

3. Family is Fundamental

Your family has seen you at your highest pinnacles of achievement and also at your lowest of lows. They love you anyway. They’re in it for the long haul, so give them the upmost respect, the most time of your time, and always remind them how much you love them.

4. Find what makes you happy, then do more of that.

Seriously. It doesn’t matter if it’s as simple as your morning cup of coffee or as intense as a cardio kick boxing class. Find what makes you smile, brings joy to your soul and makes you the best, happiest you. Then, just do it as much as you please.

5. We are all growing into the people we are going to be.

Never forget everyone is in the process of self-discovery and learning about their own unique journey. No one is perfect. We’re all just trying to get through this little thing called life as best we can, so let’s help each other do that.

6.  Smile more.

It’s your best accessory.

7. Never let anyone tell you you can’t do something, yourself included.

What is up with us and our own self-sabotage? We often get the notion that because something hasn’t been done we shouldn’t try. Or if it has been done, that’s another reason not to pursue it. Don’t let yourself, your own doubts and fears hold you back from chasing that big dream in your heart. Never let anyone tell you your dreams or aspirations are dumb.

Maybe they just don’t understand what your journey is all about and that’s okay. Maybe they weren’t meant to.  And I’ll let you in on a little secret, it isn’t up to you to explain or prove anything to anyone. Do you, boo.

8. Just because you have a bad day, bad week or bad month does not mean you have a bad life.

Who has ever gotten stuck in the Negative Nancy trap? *looks around and slowly raises hand* We tend to become grumpy, negative, and just plain unpleasant to be around when (shockingly) life isn’t going the way we had planned or imagined it should. Look on the bright side pumpkin, there’s always a silver lining. Always.

9. Health above all else.

Diets, magic pills, quick fixes and any other “solutions” are crap. Get off the yo-yo dieting train and start eating healthy, nutritious foods paired with some good ol’ fashion exercise and sweat. Fuel your mind, body and soul with things that are healthy. Instead of focusing on what to do to make you appear a certain way on the outside, change your habits and your lifestyle to make you an overall healthier and happier individual. Your body will thank you. When you love your body, it loves you back.

10. Control what you can control and let the rest go.  

When the time is right, things will happen. Do not try to force situations, people or deadlines when the time is not right. Listen to your gut instincts. Take your time if you need to and learn the difficult art of how to simply “be” in the present moment. You know the saying, stop and smell the roses? Well, you should try it. They smell lovely.

11. Your 20’s are for grinding. 

As much as we’d like to think we’re meant to rage every night of the week and be “ballers” at the ripe old age of 22, let’s not forget we must pay our dues. When you’re young, resilient and tenacious, it’s not time to party your life away. It’s time to do the dirty work. It’s time to grind. Work your ass off so you can live the good life when you can, I don’t know, actually afford to do so, and not live in your parents basement.

12. Food is meant to be enjoyed

Desserts exist for a reason. ‘Nuff said.

13. Change is the only constant.

In order to truly grow and become who we are meant to be we must accept change. Change is scary for many people. It represents the unknown, which can be very unsettling. Learn to love change, and accept that, although changes can be difficult and stir up many different sorts of emotions, they mold us into stronger people in the end.

 14. True friends stick with you through the shit.

Now, this is not to say you get to treat your friends like shit. But a true friend, someone who you should keep in your closest circle, is a person who looks past your flaws and mistakes, sets aside a silly spat, and accepts you when you are at your lowest points. A true friend will lend a listening ear, lift you up and simply just be there for you. They are with you through the thick and the thin. They won’t bail on you when you’re hurting the most, they stick with you through it. They’re there through the shit.

 15. Show the love, be the light.

It is all of our responsibilities to show more love and be a light when times are dark for someone. If someone treats you poorly, try not to react with negativity or anger. It’s difficult, but in order to make the world a better place, choose to be the light for someone.

16. You’ll get there, maybe not tomorrow, but you will.

When you have big goals for yourself and your life, it’s hard to not get anxious about accomplishing those things. Keep the faith that with hard work, continuous effort, trial and errors, you will get to where you’re supposed to be. The line to success is never straight. In fact, it looks more like a scribble. Get ready for your life’s journey to look like a four year old’s arts and crafts project.

 17. Your path is your path. 

No one person’s life or experiences are the same. Pretty, sweet if you ask me. Own and embrace who you are, what makes you unique and what you have to offer to this world. We all have our own journey to pursue, let’s kick ass at our own instead of wishing we had someone else’s.

18. Be open to new people, experiences, jobs and places.

I don’t believe this is just for when you’re young. Remember #13? No matter what age or stage in life we’re in we should always be open to new things that come our way. You don’t need to say, “yes” to everything, but you don’t need to automatically let fear, worry or doubt trigger a “no” response either.

19. The people, things and space you surround yourself with can affect how you feel.

Surround yourself with positive people, beautiful things and create a home that you love. When you’re in an environment that evokes feelings of peace and joy you set yourself up for a better mindset and happier outlook on life. (*Hint- create this in your mind as well with daily affirmations, devotionals or prayer)

20. You never know what someone is going through, be kind.

Everyone, and I mean everyone, is fighting their own battle. Be there for someone if you sense they’re going through a difficult time. If someone inspires you, motivates you, or lifts you up, you should try letting them know. They may need you to remind them of their value because you just never know what’s going on behind the scenes. I love birthdays. I love birthdays because they are days to remind people just how special they are to you. You should treat everyone like it’s their birthday everyday.

21. Don’t compare your behind the scenes with everyone’s highlight reel.

Not everyone’s life is all they make it out to be on social media. We’ll just leave it at that.

22. Say, “I love you, I’m sorry, I’m proud of you” as much as possible.

In life we need to focus on ourselves less, and lifting others up more. Express your emotions to those who matter most to you, and do it often. People are not mind readers. It’s up to you to let them know how much you care and how much they mean to you. Learn how to communicate your feelings with those who love and support you the most and watch your relationships flourish.

23. Learn to not give a shit.

Stop devoting so much energy and time consuming your mind with thoughts of what others may or may not think about you. Don’t worry about what everyone else is thinking. Keep moving forward because before long the same people who asked, “why are you doing it” will be asking you, “how did you do it?”

24. Life is a journey, buckle up and enjoy the ride.

You’re not always going to understand why certain things happen or what’s coming next. It could be a huge blessing, or a giant storm (which could ultimately be a blessing in disguise). Life has highs and lows, good and bad seasons, times of hurt and times of joy. Embrace the journey you’re on and you’ll never be disappointed with how your life turned out.

Coffee and Cardio Fitness Princess

Living your life

After taking a much needed “break” from the day-to-day stressful life I was living I’ve come to realize that all the pressure we put on ourselves is not only unnecessary, but quite frankly, just plain dumb.

Your life is meant to be lived.

It is meant to be enjoyed.

We will all get to where we’re going in due time.

Have faith in His timing, trust in yourself, have patience and take time to go smell the roses. Or, maybe, even take a break and go for a walk around the lake.

That’s what I did today. Although I was a little anxious because I wasn’t “doing” anything, it felt amazing to just “be”. To embrace life for what it is; a string of events, stories and people, all mashed up together in the most precariously beautiful way.

Many times people say that you can “choose to live happy”.

I think sometimes people forget to even choose to live.

Let’s take a lap around the lake and be thankful we have today.
Yourlifeismeantobelived

Dear WOD Superstore, Don’t Steal My Shit.

I noticed today you had a totally kick-ass picture on Facebook.

It’s funny though, your picture had your logo, but I know it wasn’t your picture.

10489964_725444604161471_5113548952603366569_n

That’s because it was my picture- taking directly from the #FPBlog. Here, take a gander, it was posted last week on a bomb CrossFit Box review.

IMG_0186

Now, look bro, you may have cropped it, and put your logo on it and gotten a couple hundred likes from it and you’re probably thinking, “this beezy should be flattered we used her stuff…”

Think again my friend, think again.

Look I’m not so crazy that I wouldn’t have been like, “oh that’s sweet!”  had you said, “taken from or credited to FitnessPrincessBlog.Com” or something to that extent. We’d be on pretty chill terms. Actually, probably more than chill. But since you didn’t, and you just slapped your own logo on it and “made it your own”, well, that really chaps my hide.

You see, I took hours out of my day to go shoot and capture that photo. My day off, might I add.

Then spent a decent amount of time editing the picture so it looked phenom (don’t act like you don’t think so too, otherwise you wouldn’t have used it), and THEN took time to carefully curate a story and insert it in the best place possible for the story to just “flow”. I mean, this photo, it really added to the article, wouldn’t you agree?

Look, us creatives we’re a little sensitive about our shit.

It takes time, effort and passion to make a story work. Then, it’s quite frankly just plain insulting for you to steal it and put it up on your social media site like it was your own.

Hey, I like you WOD Superstore. You’re my go-to for all my WOD-er-iffic needs…but BRO, come ON.

Have you learned nothing about copy right laws? What’s mine is mine, not ours, honey. Yes, that holds true even in this digital landscape of blogs, Facebook, Twitter and the world wide web.

So, please, WOD Superstore, refrain from stealing people’s pics and trying to pass them off as your own.

This is probably a good lesson for your social media intern to learn..because I am hoping to God this was an interns doing and not a marketing professional.

Oh and by the way, you’re welcome for this post because I’m sure it just boosted your SEO by a shit ton.

I’ll be busy watermarking all my photos now…thanks, bro.

#Stealingsnotcool

fitness princess

Coffee and Cardio Fitness Princess

Trusting in His Timing

I have said it once and I will say it again, so that you and I should never forget and have a constant reminder- We are on God’s time, not ours.

The big man upstairs taught me a whole lot about trust, patience and obedience this week. Looking back, I am baffled by how much I have grown in a weeks time alone.

I made some amazing revelations about my journey thus far and have begun to listen, and I mean really listen, to the instructions He is giving me.

One such realization was that last year, my first show prep was all about teaching me the ways of discipline.

I had severely lacked any sort of discipline in my life up until that point and when I finally made that discovery it helped me to see I was capable of far more than I had ever envisioned for myself. It in essence completely altered the entire trajectory of my life. Well, although I may think that, it really did not. For I believe it was in His plan all along, I was just far too blind to see it.

fitness princess transformation

So when I started to begin this prep I went into it with the same mindset but just could never seem to get “back on it”.

Then a couple days ago, what had been staring me in the face for months, finally connected to my little noggin. The synapses finally were set ablaze, the light went on, and things “clicked”. This prep is a different journey entirely, with a different lesson to be learned. This prep is in essence the journey of patience and trusting in His timing.

Knowing this does not cause me to work any more or less harder than I know is required. It does not cause me to be any more or less disciplined than necessary. But it does require that I stop living my life according to my own timeline and start relying heavily on His guidance.

This works. Oh man, does this work.

He showed me a tiny, brief snippet about how this whole trusting in His timing thing works yesterday. I felt compelled, well, it was more than compelled, I felt urged from the depths of my being to send an e-mail that I had been putting off for months. I kept not sending it because it felt like it was not the right timing. I sensed that I needed to wait. But mostly, I had not sent it because I was scared. Then He knocked me upside the head, gave me a big flashing sign that essentially said, “JUST DO IT.”

The result of this e-mail is the start of an incredible opportunity and I have not stopped singing His praises. However, my take away is not that I should sing His praises when He seemingly finally cuts me a break, or comes through for me. What I learned instead was that we need to sing his praises most when we’re feeling stuck.  It’s when we don’t feel comfortable, when we’re being forced to wait on God to work things out that we need to praise Him even more . Before making a big, disastrous leap and trying to do things our way we must learn how to sense when He is pushing us in a direction or when He is making us wait. When He is teaching us how to patient.

Being patient is not to be confused with lack of hard work or effort.

Patience is how we act when we are waiting on a plan. When we are joyful and positive when everything seems to be going in a different direction than we had intended. When nothing seems to be coming together. Always remember that you will never, ever, figure out God’s plan for you or the world. It goes far beyond anything we could even fathom. The inner-workings of every single person’s life, every decision, every event, and how it all comes together for His plan will never be understood.

It’s mind-blowing. And it’s supposed to be. We are not supposed to even attempt at trying to figure this out.

We must simply learn how to sit back, buckle up, and enjoy the roller coaster of life.

roller_coaster

There will ups, downs, twists, turns, unexpected jolts and stops. Times of elation and then times when we have to grip our harness and hold on for dear life. There’s times when we need to scream, wail, cry out, and smile real big.

I’m ready for the roller coaster God has for my life.

I trust that through the dips and down times, there will be times when I soar. I am learning to be at peace and with sound mind and heart with the roller coaster He has set me on, so that I can enjoy the good times with everything I have.

Learn to love the ride, princess.

Like a roller coaster, the ride will be over before you know it.

fitness princess

 

 

Roller coaster image: learnersdictionary.com

Fitness Princess Mini Wins

Mini Wins of the Week

Take a moment to rewind and think about the past week.

What made you smile? Laugh? Cry? Sweat?

Maybe this week was a rough week. Or maybe just another dull, ho hum, uneventful couple of days where all you could think about was the weekend. Well if that’s the case, let’s get positive people!

Take 3 1/2 minutes (see, less than five. I’d say that’s win in and of itself!) and scribble out 3 mini “wins” you had this week.

Maybe you did some house work you had been putting off. Maybe you Completed a work project. Or maybe you killed your workout, broke a PR or made it through a rough wod.

I win everyday because I choose to think that way

 

Here, I’ll even share my list of mini “wins” with ya to get the ball rolling:

1. Allowed myself time to just “be” in the present moment. Taking Yoga at the Madison Improvement Club here in Phoenix has been kinda,  sorta, really life changing. If you’re new to yoga or spin, I’d definitely say you need to try this place out.

2. Finally Did some things I’d been putting off on my “to-do” list for a very long time. I am somewhat of an expert-level procrastinator so it felt good to finally do what I’ve been talking about doing forever. Which is take pictures of two of my favorite places! One is CrossFit Blur…see..I actually wrote a post about it too!

3. Booked a trip home. I’ve been feeling not so like myself lately so I figured what a better way to feel more like, “me” than be surrounded by the people I love. It was very hard for me to take the time off work, but I have to remind myself, family comes first. Always.

Feel free to share your mini “wins” in the comments. Remember, there is nothing too silly or trivial. Be proud of your accomplishments no matter how small! Come on kids, let’s build each other up! It’s easy to get hung up on what you didn’t do so let’s reflect on what we did accomplish! #winning

If you need something to lift up your spirits, online shop, or simply browse some pretty awesome things I found this week check out this week’s Media Mashup